My wife and I asked this very question to our boys this past weekend to receive a childlike perspective on hate. My sons mentioned that hate was bad and a selfish act. One of my sons proceeded to say, “Don’t be a hater.”
During our family discussion, my wife and I were trying to teach our sons the difference between love and hate. Ultimately, we ended our discussion with the thought that hate is limited thinking.
However, I would like to include you in our discussion. How do you feel about hate?
What is Hate?
Hate is an intense or passionate dislike for someone or something.
One form of hate we are all familiar with is racism, but there is a greater form of hate. I believe the greatest form of hate is xenophobia.
Xenophobia is hate of anything foreign or strange.
Xenophobia is the greatest form of hate because it includes bullying, racism, socioeconomic hate, religious hate, political hate, sexual orientation hate, etc.
Regardless of the form of hate, the common denominator with most acts of hate is fear.
Prevailing Over Hate
The first key to overcoming hate is addressing the real issue and not the symptoms. The real issue when it comes to hate is fear. Here are two ways to prevail over hate.
1. Practice forgiveness. Many people find it very hard to forgive, which leads to further fear and hate. However, if we can find a way to let go and release those things that have negatively impacted our lives, we find ourselves prevailing over hate.
Hate can be directed towards yourself or others. Sometimes you have to forgive yourself. No matter whether it is yourself or someone else, hate is a heavy load to carry. This is why it is so important to forgive and let go.
2. Give love. Love is much stronger than hate. We have seen and heard stories concerning actions driven by love. Love will always overcome hate.
We have seen various types of actions driven by love such as love for God, love for country, love for children, love for spouse, love for life, love for sports, love animals, love for music, etc. We have seen some amazing moments and actions driven by love. There are two great quotes from the Bible relating to love.
“Love is patient, love is kind…it always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves. Love never fails.” - 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear…” - 1 John 4:18
Don’t Be a Hater
Unfortunately, one blog will not cure the hate of our world, but individually what we do can collectively make a big difference. So in the words of my son, “Don’t be a hater!”
Hater is commonly used as a slang term. According to UrbanDictionary.com, hater is defined as “A person that simply cannot be happy for another person’s success. So rather than be happy they make a point of exposing a flaw in that person.”
Instead of releasing any kind of hate into our world, let love prevail.