Communication is key in all aspects of our lives. We often think of words and exchange of information as essential to being successful in this society.
Who, what, where, when, and why are still the important Five W’s we seek to answer, but we don’t really stop to think about our audience when we casually speak.
Today let’s think about the who and why of communication between you and your spouse. Have you ever watched an older couple in full discussion? They are often in their own world, listening, and giving eye contact with every word oozing from the lips of their spouse. You would never know if the person disagreed with what the other was saying because that same gentle smile remained on their faces throughout the entire conversation.
We should know our spouses well enough to know the tender spots or hurtful words of communication. Do we really want to hurt the person we love the deepest?
Of course honesty is the foundation of any relationship. We should be honest and sincere in all of our conversations. It takes prayer and time to engage our thoughts in order for us to help and inform. Our only concern should not be about seeking our own needs and wants. Communicating your needs and wants is a fabulous way to communicate, but it should not dominate or be the sole reason why we are communicating. That would just be selfish. Communication isn’t only about talking, it is also critical for us to listen to the heart of others.
At times, it is healthy to take a break if you have a disagreement and step back to regain your thoughts before you speak. However, the “cold shoulder,” can be interpreted as way of ignoring a person and their need to communicate. This is viewed as a form of punishment to the person who has a need to share. Although no words are being said, this form of communication can prove to be destructive to a relationship.
Why and who we need to communicate with our spouse is so important. There is no reason to communicate something that needs to be discussed with your spouse with anyone else. Even if the someone else is a best friend. Why? Instead of including others into your private and personal information, these conversations are best left for you and your spouse.
Communication is pure intimacy in a relationship, if it is done with grace and respect. This intimacy can cause you to have a beautiful long lasting relationship that can endure the storms of life. The goal for today is simple.
Carefully and effectively communicate with those you love, but especially your spouse.
If you don’t have a spouse, start communicating with your significant other in a healthy way.
One of the main takeaways from today’s blog is to keep disagreements, misunderstandings, and personal intimate information between you and your spouse.
If you are having difficulties communicating with your spouse, receiving spiritual counseling is a great way to open the lines of communication. Just don’t fall victim to sharing your personal business with everyone, it can be dangerous and damaging to a relationship.
I pray these last few weeks of blogs have been helpful with allowing you to lead your life gracefully, which in turn will help you lead others well. Feel free to leave your thoughts below.
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